God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons that we could learn in no other way - C. S. Lewis
I have come to understand the statement 'this trial has been a blessing' (something I never - and I mean never - thought I would). This knowledge came at a heavy price. These thoughts have been on my mind as of late and I've felt the need to share. We are not alone in our trials, we all have them, we don't know what form they will take, when they will come, but they will come to each of us. A trial becomes a blessing because there is no other way to become the person you are supposed to be. After struggling through the darkness, there is light at the end of the tunnel and that light can fill your life if choose to let it. I have pondered the many religious examples of those who knew there was no other way to accomplish the thing that must be done. No other way than to press forward.
Christ suffered in Gethsemanie, but prior to His suffering, He questioned His loving father, essentially asking 'Is there no other way?' But it is paramount to acknowledge, 'Nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt'. Christ acknowledged that He would undertake the unimaginable because it was Heavenly Father's will. Matthew 26:39
39 And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: neverthless not as I will, but as thou wilt.
When we must pass through sorrow and trials in this life, it helps to, "Believe in miracles. I have seen so many of them come when every other indication would say that hope was lost. Hope is never lost. If those miracles do not come soon or fully or seemingly at all, remember the Savior's own anguished example: if the bitter cup does not pass, drink it an be strong, trusting in happier days ahead."
Jeffrey R. Holland Like a Broken Vessel Conference October 2013
Nephi was instructed to kill Laban in order to obtain the plates of brass. The Lord delivered Laban into his hands and Nephi struggled doubtfully in his heart and mind, he wavered at the task placed before him. But, the spirit prompted him again and he realized there was no other way to accomplish what must be done.
1 Nephi 4:10
10 And it came to pass that I was constrained by the Spirit that I should kill Laban; but I said in my heart: Never at any time have I shed the blood of man. And I shrunk and would that I might not slay him.
12 And it came to pass that the Spirit said unto me again: Slay him, for the Lord hath delivered him into thy hands;
13 Behold the Lord slayeth the wicked to bring forth his righteous purposes. It is better that one man should perish than that a nation should dwindle and perish in unbelief.
Adam and Eve fell that men might be - ant they had an eternal vision that there was no other way but to leave the beautiful, tranquil, garden. Furthermore, they had the eternal vision that through their trials they would have joy.
10 And in that day Adam blessed God and was filled, and began to prophesy concerning all the families of the earth, saying: Blessed be the name of God, for because of my transgression my eyes are opened, and in this life I shall have joy, and again in the flesh I shall see God.
11 And Eve, his wife, heard all these things and was glad, saying: Were it not for out transgression we never should have had seed, and never should have known good and evil, and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient.
Much like Adam and Eve, it is because of this knowledge that I choose to be have joy. I make a conscious choice to focus on the good, to realize that my life is beautiful, hard, messy, fun, dull, exciting, and everything in between - and it is my one and only life. It is a life full of happy moments. Choosing to focus on the silver lining, the good, the happy moments, grounds me and warms my soul. I realize my life is not that hard anymore because I know learned that there was no other way to get here.
I know that there was no other way than through my trials for me to become the person the Lord wanted me to be. To become the daughter, sister, mother, friend, and person He planned for me, it had to be through trials. We will all face trials, there is no avoiding them, of this I am certain. Part of the priceless knowledge I have gained is that I KNOW that the measure of my worth comes from my loving Heavenly Father and no one else. I am HIS daughter and He is my father who loves me. I have infinite worth and I love who I am becoming and who I am I yet to become because of Heavenly Father's plan for me.
"The gospel of Jesus Christ is a plan that shows us how to become what our Heavenly Father desires us to become"
- Dallin H. Oaks, “The Challenge to Become,” Ensign, Nov. 2000.